It sucks because I could be happily chatting away with a friend when he says:

“I’d like to spend more time with you.”

Ewww.

Or a long-time friend who suddenly asks:

“Is it just me, or do we share a special bond?”

It’s def just you.

Or receiving a text from someone I’ve always had fun talking to, after a phone call:

“Tell me… does anyone else ever make you laugh as much as I do?”

I’m grateful for the chuckles… but stop.

Even if you’ve said these things to me, this post is most likely NOT directed at you. You'd be surprised at how often women are fed the same lines from all different people.

And the thing is… I trust my intuition about the intentions behind the words communicated. If my intuition says, "Yuck..." that's what it is.

For example, I have a couple of male friends who regularly say things like, “You’re something special”… and I don’t feel any ulterior motives behind it. Things stay cool… I don’t feel creeped out… everything is right in my world.

But then I’d get those words from someone else and I’m immediately grossed out to a point where I need to take a few moments to shake that nasty feeling off.

I’ve had to explain this a few times already to those who didn’t understand my backing off. Most receive it well and we remain friends... but a few went crazy-town on me… with one responding with:

“You’re nothing special. Nobody wants you, ugly b*tch.”

Awesome. Thanks for taking my boundaries as a personal attack on you and your sensitive ego, creepy psycho nut.

Of course, he’s the same person who earlier said:

“You’re not only beautiful but very special. I’d like to take you out sometime.”

So that’s my confession.